Hi
So I figure I should update this thing.
We had an amazing extended weekend. More like a week. From the night of Thursday the 17th to yesterday when I left. Leaving was so freaking hard. It was like I was leaving a piece of me. But I know that we will see each other either this weekend in NC or next in Atlanta, and then back here to meet my other mom. Then I guess the night of the 25th Ryan and I will go back for the week leading up to January.
I got to meet some of his closest friends, and their families. His closest welcomed me as if I was part of them already with hugs and kisses on the check upon meeting. I did not talk to his brother to much, but his SIL is pretty awesome.
I was so nervous when we left for SC on turkey day. Not that I was meeting his friends or his brother and family, but that I was meeting his mom. I am a mom, and I know how I would scrutinize every woman that Ryan would bring home, how I would pick them apart to make sure that she was worth my son. By morning, even though my nerves had not settled, I realized I could just be me. Which was a huge good thing, because even though I was still worried I would say something wrong, or do something wrong...it took a lot of the nervous energy away.
Me and his mom ended up spending some time together, which was good. And I learned something. Never argue with your future mother in law. LOL...well that is what she said when I tried to pay for dinner, to never argue with your mother in law.
I am really glad that everyone seemed to like me. I know that sometimes how family and friends think can influence what happens, and it was something I was worried about. I know I should not have been, but I am such a logical, cynical person that I try to think of everything...good and bad.
So....tomorrow or early the next morning I head back out to NC for the birth of my godson. I cannot wait to see his precious little face, and feel his tiny fingers in my hand.
After that, I come home for a week and then head back down to GA to bring him here. Which will be interesting seeing as he will meet my drunk mom. I call her that, because I have never seen her sober. Ever. We learned at young ages to never take a drink out of her soda. She is a functioning alcoholic. Always has been. But she has also been supportive of me since her and dad got divorced, not so much before, but after she changed.
All in all, everything is going way better than I ever expected. His family seems to like me, my family is accepting, friends like both of us...and the love we have, when we are together cannot be denied. He had a meeting while I was down there, and I went with him, and even the lawyer said that he could see the love. Our friendship stays strong, or love continues to grow, and we are just biding time till we can be together without states between us.
Hope everyone had a great Holiday.
*smooch*
Oh yeah...due to circumstances beyond anyone's control, we will not be attending the reception as we were planning to do. Hope everyone has a great time!!!!
We had an amazing extended weekend. More like a week. From the night of Thursday the 17th to yesterday when I left. Leaving was so freaking hard. It was like I was leaving a piece of me. But I know that we will see each other either this weekend in NC or next in Atlanta, and then back here to meet my other mom. Then I guess the night of the 25th Ryan and I will go back for the week leading up to January.
I got to meet some of his closest friends, and their families. His closest welcomed me as if I was part of them already with hugs and kisses on the check upon meeting. I did not talk to his brother to much, but his SIL is pretty awesome.
I was so nervous when we left for SC on turkey day. Not that I was meeting his friends or his brother and family, but that I was meeting his mom. I am a mom, and I know how I would scrutinize every woman that Ryan would bring home, how I would pick them apart to make sure that she was worth my son. By morning, even though my nerves had not settled, I realized I could just be me. Which was a huge good thing, because even though I was still worried I would say something wrong, or do something wrong...it took a lot of the nervous energy away.
Me and his mom ended up spending some time together, which was good. And I learned something. Never argue with your future mother in law. LOL...well that is what she said when I tried to pay for dinner, to never argue with your mother in law.
I am really glad that everyone seemed to like me. I know that sometimes how family and friends think can influence what happens, and it was something I was worried about. I know I should not have been, but I am such a logical, cynical person that I try to think of everything...good and bad.
So....tomorrow or early the next morning I head back out to NC for the birth of my godson. I cannot wait to see his precious little face, and feel his tiny fingers in my hand.
After that, I come home for a week and then head back down to GA to bring him here. Which will be interesting seeing as he will meet my drunk mom. I call her that, because I have never seen her sober. Ever. We learned at young ages to never take a drink out of her soda. She is a functioning alcoholic. Always has been. But she has also been supportive of me since her and dad got divorced, not so much before, but after she changed.
All in all, everything is going way better than I ever expected. His family seems to like me, my family is accepting, friends like both of us...and the love we have, when we are together cannot be denied. He had a meeting while I was down there, and I went with him, and even the lawyer said that he could see the love. Our friendship stays strong, or love continues to grow, and we are just biding time till we can be together without states between us.
Hope everyone had a great Holiday.
*smooch*
Oh yeah...due to circumstances beyond anyone's control, we will not be attending the reception as we were planning to do. Hope everyone has a great time!!!!