I have a friend that I do not talk to that often, but we are still relatively close. She sent me an email earlier today asking for a little advice.

I used to work with her before we were all laid off, her boyfriend/fiance was my account manager. So I know both of them pretty well.

Before he started seeing K. he was seeing a J. but they were really just great friends who fucked.

In K.'s email she seems very upset because she has caught him J. twice now. Once about a month ago and she asked him to promise her it was not going to happen again. She loves him, and she moved to another state with him, so really she is alone without any type of family support.

So she asked what would I have done. I sent a reply back without having to even think about it telling her to pack her shit and come the hell home. Shit she can stay here for a few days, it's not like I have never opened my home up to anyone before. She forgave him once, she should not have to again. Not if the relationship really means anything to him. She sent an email back telling me she was not sure if she was ready to end it yet, because she does love him, and knows he loves her. My reply...while he may love you ask yourself if he respects you. If you forgave him once, and asked that he not do it anymore, and made the boundaries clear, (they have a semi-open relationship, can only play if the other is present) and he did it to you again knowing how you felt, and how it would hurt, then move on. It is not worth it. I am waiting to hear back from her.

So my question is...what type of advice would you have given? Because I feel like I should email her back and tell her that she should simply do whatever makes her happy. And I am sorry for being rash...

So what would you do?