Saturday, April 29, 2006

So much to do...

Tomorrow I leave once again for GA. Besides this trip down there and the two I have planned to come here and pack, move and get Ryan, this should be the last trip back and forth, other than visits to my dad. I give him a year before he is packed up himself and right down the road from me.

Today I talked to my real sister on the phone, and she is really trying to work it out to come to the wedding. We talked about a lot of things, and how even though it would be somewhat awkward, it will be an experience I and she wants to have. I got to talk to my niece and nephew for the first time, and was just so warmed by how much she is wanting to let me into their life. She said both of my brothers want to come, but neither can afford it. No matter, just that she is trying to come means so much to me.

This coming week we have so much to do. Monday, I have to make a list of everything, from the final favors to get done to buying the bubbles or rice. I pick up my wedding dress on Monday also, and I cannot wait just to have it in my possession. I love this dress, it is just so pretty and simple. And on Monday both of my wedding night nighties should arrive...I will have to hide them to make sure I don't get tempted to wear them before hand.

PLUS...and here is the big thing...

We get to see Nookie again and meet Boo. Yippee!!! We are all going to dinner and to a Braves game. I am sure pictures will be taken, as he loves the camera.

My maid of honor told me that it is bad luck for us to be together at all that day, and that he should stay somewhere else. I know this, and we have talked about it, but I am being selfish...I want him with me...however, we decided he will stay at a friends and I will be at the house and we will figure out who is doing the setting up of the reception and who is doing the chapel.

Either way, I cannot wait for that day to come. I know I am going to cry, I will cry as soon as my dad gives me away. I will cry as we say our vows, and I will cry probably until the reception starts. I am just emotional that way.

I cannot believe that it is so close, that it is almost finally here. You know something else...I cannot wait to taste the cake!!! Vanilla cake with a strawberry filling, yummy...
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I saw this over on the other other place, and did not think that it got enough attention.

If you like Pink, and the Indigo Girls you have to listen. Even if you don't like them, you have to listen.

Audio:Dear Mr. President (featuring Indigo Girls)
by PinksPage


Dear Mr. President
Come take a walk with me
Let's pretend we're just two people and
You're not better than me
I'd like to ask you some questions if we can speak honestly

What do you feel when you see all the homeless on the street
Who do you pray for at night before you go to sleep
What do you feel when you look in the mirror
Are you proud

How do you sleep while the rest of us cry
How do you dream when a mother has no chance to say goodbye
How do you walk with your head held high
Can you even look me in the eye
And tell me why

Dear Mr. President
Were you a lonely boy
Are you a lonely boy
Are you a lonely boy
How can you say
No child is left behind
We're not dumb and we're not blind
They're all sitting in your cells
While you pave the road to hell

What kind of father would take his own daughter's rights away
And what kind of father might hate his own daughter if she were gay
I can only imagine what the first lady has to say
You've come a long way from whiskey and cocaine

How do you sleep while the rest of us cry
How do you dream when a mother has no chance to say goodbye
How do you walk with your head held high
Can you even look me in the eye

Let me tell you bout hard work
Minimum wage with a baby on the way
Let me tell you bout hard work
Rebuilding your house after the bombs took them away
Let me tell you bout hard work
Building a bed out of a cardboard box
Let me tell you bout hard work
Hard work
Hard work
You don't know nothing bout hard work
Hard work
Hard work
Oh

How do you sleep at night
How do you walk with your head held high
Dear Mr. President
You'd never take a walk with me
Would you

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Wednesday, April 26, 2006

OMG





OMG!!! 10 days. 10 Days till my father walks me down the isle, and we intertwine or lives. I am so freaking excited.

Today a realtor is coming to check out my house. I was going to rent it, but I honestly do not ever see myself coming back here, so I think it would just be best to sell it, pay off the loan, and have a little extra for savings.

OMG!!! 10 Days. I have butterflies floating along in my belly just thinking about it...oh wait, thats the baby kicking.

Let me tell ya, as much as this little guy kicks, as active as he is, he has to be a soccer player to be. He is always moving. And then when he kicks...yeoch. Ryan kicked my ribs a whole lot, but never so much in my belly...this little guy I think likes the feeling of his little foot pressing out or something.

OMG!!! 10 days. I know I keep saying it, but wow...I never thought this day would come. Now I cannot wait for it to be here.

Rainy and wet outside, but my heart is warm and cozy inside.

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Monday, April 24, 2006

Hello

On my drive back here yesterday from my baby's, I started to think about a post Catt made after spending time with Dingus. She talked about how it felt going back to her shitty life. That is exactly how I felt yesterday.

I felt as though I was leaving my home and going back to something that I just did not feel apart of anymore. I'm a mountain girl by heart, and normally when I see those mountains on the Horizon as I enter Virginia and start my upward quest to West Virginia, I feel serene. I feel at home. I feel the energy that radiates from them. Yesterday all I felt was bleh. They did not offer the comforting feeling that I normally get when I am surrounded by them. I still love the mountains, and the people, but there is something missing here, that I have never expected to miss, and that is my other half.

This past week was glorious. Ryan was such a different little boy. I watched this past week as my sweet little boy went back to being that kid that I am so proud of. The one that is innocent, fun, loving, and just a kid. Recently watching him here, I have seen him grow to be defensive, shy, and even distant. I know it has to do with how his cousins treat him, and then the issues with his dad. Before his cousins moved here, Ryan was so outgoing, so much fun, and now because of the two years of put downs and meanness that those kids posses, he has become sullen. He still laughs and plays, but that little bit of innocence was beginning to disappear. This week watching him interact with other kids, I had to remind him he no longer has to yell to be heard, that just talking works. That he doesn't have to be shy, that just talking to them works. I watched as he slowly tip toes over to see if his new found friends could play after school and felt so sorry for him, for feeling a fear of rejection that he is actually now afraid to ask anyone to play with him. When they said yes and came over to play some laser tag and slide on the slip and slide, the look on his face was pure astonishment. I really do not think he thought they would.

And then there is him. Do you know how much I love this man? How just the mere presence of him makes me get butterflies and weak in the knees? Then watching him with Ryan, my heart just swells.

In less than two weeks, we will be married. I am getting ready to leave everything I know. The mountains I love, my family, my friends, my house. Everything that is familiar. And two months ago I was scared to death. Now, I just cannot see spending another minute without him by my side.

My real sister responded that she is trying to come to the wedding. That she wishes our mother could be there too. I am glad that she is trying to be there, but also a little nervous about it. If she did come, it would be the first time I have seen her since I was 12. Before that the last time was when I was a baby, when our mother walked out with them.

Everything is falling into place. We are happy. I am happy. Gone are the days when sadness fills me, when I cry more than I smile. I am still doing the therapy thing, but I missed last week, but right now I feel better than I have in a long long time.

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Wednesday, April 12, 2006

Hang ups

So yesterday after the kids got off the bus and we were home the phone rang. I thought it was the cousins wanting to play so I handed Ryan the phone.

It wasn't it was the parent calling to bitch at me. When I got on the phone the first thing she said was what is the problem here. I said well, what are you talking about. She then proceeded to tell me that I had told Ryan all these things and he was repeating them. HAD she talked to her husband she would have known that it was not me that Ryan heard those things from, it was my dad. Her husband, my cousin had already talked to dad, and dad told him that he did say that he was pissed at them for leaving the house nasty. I told her that I could not tell Ryan to not say the truth, because evidently he also told the kids that they were nasty and his pawpaw was cleaning their mess because they were too lazy.

I tried to talk to her, but I will not yell at someone to answer them, not when I have to talk over them to begin with. So I told her that I was not discussing this anymore, and I said godbye and hung up.

She called back. She said don't be a tool and hang up on me again. I told her I was done discussing it, that I know what my son said, and that I was not going to tell him to not say the truth. Thats when she really started yelling, saying the house was like that when they moved in. I told her that I knew better, we always have pictures of the rooms before someone moves in, dads been burnt way to many times before. Well that was when she started cursing, so again I told her I was not discussing it, and hung up.

She called back three more times. The last time I just answered and laid the phone down. I could hear her screaming pick up the phone bitch. Then after she finally realized and hung up, she was outside screaming. I really have no idea what she was saying, I heard bitch a lot. And ya know...whatever. I am a bitch, but do not ever accuse me of something before asking me if I had done it. Do not assume, talk to me rationally, not like a crazed lunatic.

Well after she went back in Ryan asked if he could play outside, and I told him yes. It was a beautiful day outside. I heard screaming again and went to the door and asked Ryan what it was. He told me that the kids were yelling out the window, and he asked if they wanted to play with them, and they said no your mom hung up on our mom. And yada yada yada. Ryan told me that he just ignored them and jumped on his trampoline.

The trampoline. That is where some of this started. Two days ago before Ryan had baseball, he was outside jumping on it. They came over and asked if they could and I told them no. Before I would let them. But after their parents actions, I am not being responsible for them if they are hurt on it. NOPE. I told them if they wanted to jump on it then their mother would have to come out and watch them. Later they told Ryan that I was just trying to be mean to them.

See, last year, when they were over here, I made them listen. We have rules in my house, and they like Ryan had to follow them. That lead to a big fight where I was told that I was being mean to the kids just to be mean. Yeah right. Thats what I do, go around to just be mean. No one in the family believed them of course, but that is also where I really started to detest demon spawn. She learned very early that if I told her no, do not do that, or you really should not do that, that if she cried and went home and told her parents that I had yelled at her that they would call and cuss me. But that is another story.

Today Ryan is riding the bus with them. These kids can be so mean, and I know I have to let Ryan take care of himself, but they are really mean.

Ryan cries very easily when he cares. That boy can roll down the back cement stairs and get up and still run and play without a single tear, but you say something that hurts his feelings, and he is a puddle. I think it has a lot to do with his dad. And, well Ryan is just very sensitive and very loving. He tries to be nice to everyone, and is beginning to realize that not everyone is going to be nice to him.

So I am sitting here worried that those kids are going to say something to Ryan, and just ruin his day at school. I am pretty confident my worry is for nothing, because Ryan can handle himself, and I know he will tell them what he thinks, but they always say stuff about his dad not being here, and that is what I worry about, especially after his dads last fuck ups.

We'll see how it ends later I guess. I know I cannot wait to get Ryan away from here. Ryan is a good kid. He is smart, articulate, has manners, and is loving. He cannot even lie right. He'll lie the first time you ask, but if you ask again he'll say you got me, or start laughing.

So what, I have a boy who cries if something hurts him. He is not a baby. He is a beautiful little boy, who just cares that it hurts him when others don't. He is getting better, but I am not going to tell him to not say what he is feeling to people like them or anyone, nor am I going to tell him he was completely wrong. No he really should not have said anything, but I know he would not have had they not said something first.

Happy hump day everyone.

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Sunday, April 09, 2006

Yummy

Syrenboy and I just split what I have to say is the best apple I have ever tasted. It was juicy, and crisp, and just wonderful.

We went into it a little hesitant, because the apple is actually called a Grapple. The advertising said it was an apple that tasted like a grape. Online I found that it is actually a facny fugi soaked in concorde grape juice...

no matter...that apple did not really taste like grapes, just a nice fresh sweet, juicy apple. I think we'll have another.

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Friday, April 07, 2006

Gather 'Round

I've got a story to tell...I'm going to let all of my anger out here, and just hopefully let it go, but if I don't scream it out to someone I'm afraid I will try to do bodily harm to someone which is not good given my present state.

So...I know you all have heard me mention my demon spawn cousin, who is 8 BTW. Well I don't think I have ever talked about her idiot parents who make her that way. Instead of this being about Demon Spawn, it will be about them...I'll save her for another post...

What is it that has my panties all in a bunch...these fucking, filthy, piggy, people. That's all I can call them. First a little back-story...

My grandmothers house was built for her by my grandfather, and at that time was the biggest one here on the hill. It took him a long time to build it and put all the stone on the outside, but he built it exactly the way she wanted it, nothing left out. The house has 5 bedrooms, two bathrooms, 2 kitchens, 2 family rooms, formal dining room, a canning room, a wine cellar that she used to store coal in for the heat back then, and two rooms that are just there. When she was alive one was for us kids to play in and the other was her sewing room. As a child I remember Thanksgiving at her house the most, because that was when us kids were finally allowed upstairs. If you look at the house from the outside it looks small, because it sits on a small incline, and you only see the top, but if you go around you see the bottom. That is where she spent most of her time, the upstairs was for "special times" or "special guests". She never even had a TV up there till she could not walk down the stairs anymore. The upstairs at Thanksgiving and Christmas was like walking into another world for us kiddos. The formal dining room had a huge table that seated 12, the most glorious china cabinet, and a chandelier that hung from the ceiling. I remember her taking each piece off of that and lovingly washing it by hand after each gathering. The living room was antiques that had been in the family for years. The only things that were new was the seating. She had two couches, and three chairs custom made to fit in that room to match her drapes. Each bedroom upstairs was themed. The one off of the living room was simply gorgeous. She saw the furniture in a Country living magazine and set out to obtain it, and she did. And kept that room open for anyone to see. It was her pride and joy. As a little girl I would always love to sneak in there and just run my hand over the Oak vanity table, or sit in front of the book cabinet and look at all the first editions she had. Her kitchen upstairs had a smoked glass table, and everything you would need to make a gourmet dinner. There was a red bedroom, a yellow bedroom, and hers...which was done in all pure white. Her room was decorated of pictures painted of her holding each of her 12 kids as they were babies. One that I remember the most was of my uncle Dallas. He died of still birth and she had the picture done shortly after. At the time I thought it was crude, but it was her way, she never left anyone out. Still to this day, when we have our family reunion every year, my part of the family meets at the graveyard to put flowers on his little grave with the lamb marker. To include him you see. Because that is what she wanted.

If the upstairs was splendor then the downstairs could only be called comfort...you could run in with your muddy shoes on from the backdoor, eat in the family room, and just play. As long as you cleaned it up. The bedrooms down there got turned into havens for us grand kids. It was like our own little world down there, and before she got sick she spent her time there as well. I remember walking from my dads to her house when I was about 14, walking in the backdoor, and seeing flour and chicken EVERYWHERE in the kitchen. She was making chicken and dumplings and just had a blast doing it. There were times when we would just sit on the couch down there and cuddle up watching the TV, or her telling me stories of when she was little.

I cherished those times in her house. Hearing her laughter, seeing her smile. Knowing no matter what I had done, I could come there for refuge. Then she got sick. The upstairs became an opulent hospital so to speak. Everything was the same, but lots of hospitally things.

After she passed, my dad and my uncle bought the house from the estate. They could not see it going to someone else who would just sell it, or someone not here who would just let it go. My grandfather built it for her, and they wanted to keep it within the family.

So...now we are to the present and why I could just kill someone right now.

Last year my cousin got his discharge papers after serving in Iraq for PTSD. His dad and mom at that time were my next door neighbors. My cousin and his demon wife have three kids. I have posted pics of them before and in that little thing over there, the blonde little girl is McKayla. They asked my dad if they could rent it, as the new renters had just moved out. Dad reluctantly said yes. The entire family was calling him telling him he should because of the kids...blah blah blah. I'll say right now at least two wish they had stayed out of it.

My dad took three weeks to get it ready for them. He put back in the 14k gold and crystal light fixture my uncle had given her, put the drapes back up and pretty much just brought back an essence of her. For them. My cousin was the closest to her growing up, before she got sick, so he thought it would be nice to have little reminders around. They seemed very excited knowing dad did this.

Well...they built a house between me and my uncle, my cousins dad, and moved out...owing three months rent. We finally got into the house yesterday. I literally cried. There is more than $5000 worth of damage. The cream carpets are black from coal dust, you can see where the pictures hung on the white walls, because of the dingy grey that surrounds the squares. The furnace is ruined, because all the returns were blocked with dust and grime, the fridge upstairs had so much mold in it that it actually has made holes in the fiber glass. The demon spawns room has holes in the walls. The bathroom upstairs had tile from the floor halfway up the walls. There is so many pieces broken or missing that all of it needs to be redone. The bathtub has black mold surrounding it. The downstairs commode overflowed sometime and they NEVER cleaned it up...so there is literally shit in the bathroom downstairs. Shit and old toilet paper that has hardened into the floor. The door was shut and had a lock on it that dad had to cut off...now we know why. The stove downstairs had something made in it that looks like it exploded about three centuries ago. The fridge down there does not even work. The only room in the house without any damage at all is McKayla...and honestly hers should have the most...shes three...you know 3 yr olds, they like to write, and scribble, and color. There is not a mark on any of her walls, her carpet, or nothing. The drapes are in shreds, and were hidden in the canning room downstairs.

And that light fixture that my dad put back in, the one my uncle gave her right before she fell sick, is gone. Replaced with a cheap dome from Kmart or some-such. Most of the light switch and electrical outlet covers are gone.

Each time I walk in there...I just cry. It is almost like they disrespected my grandmother. Her home. The one OUR grandfather built exactly for her.

Two of my aunts have now been there, and they both are furious. One, the one I would never expect to just break down, sat in the middle of my grandmothers old room, and cried...telling my dad had she known that they would do this to mommys house she would have never begged him to let them move in.

My dad is 68 yrs old. My step mom is 65. Today, they are over there scrubbing walls and shampooing carpets. But nothing is coming off the walls, nothing is coming out of the carpet. My uncle who is the other owner will come in next week and redo the upstairs bathroom, and try to get up in the ceiling to figure out where the mold on the front bedroom ceiling is coming from.

I want to help, but right now I can't. But what I really want to do...is for 10 minutes not be pregnant. That is all the time I would need to walk the 20 or so steps to Missy's front door, and drag her out into the yard and kick the living shit out of her.

But everything comes back to you when you harm someone...that is all I keep thinking. It will come back to them.

But I also keep thinking...that was my grammys house, the one my grandfather built...and it has shit in it. Shit they were to fucking lazy to clean up.

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Thursday, April 06, 2006

Please help....

Okay we have to pick out a song. We both have different tastes, and we both really really like these four.

So please blogland peeps...help us make this one decision for our wedding day.

Close to you

Cherish

Don't Know Much

Here and Now

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Tuesday, April 04, 2006

Home again

I am home. Still a little sore in my right lower side, but much better than I was a few nights ago.

I hate hospitals. Hate them. So to call my dad in the middle of the night and ask him to please take me told him that it was something serious.

It started around 10pm, and it was the absolute worse pain I have ever felt in my life. They asked in the ER on a scale of 1-10 to rate my pain, 10 being the worse. I asked like childbirth, and the nurse said yes exactly. I told her then put me at a 20. I literally could not walk by myself. I could not stop crying long enough to see the papers that they were trying to get me to sign. They hooked up some IV's and said that they were admitting me.

I called my dad and my baby to let them know that they were admitting me. After I was in my room the surgeon and the OB came to see me. By that time the pain reliever that was in the IV had started to take effect and I was very drowsy, but could still hear them, but not make out everything they were saying. Surgery, and appendicitis were repeated several times. After the surgeon left to look at my blood work the OB told me that they were going to do a CT scan, but that they needed to tell me that while it will not cause birth defects, it could put the baby more at risk for Leukemia when he/she was older, and for me to think about it. I knew that I would say no, if they told me I had to have it. Childhood Leukemia is high in my family, and really I did not want anything to hurt the baby.

That night my white blood count was over 19000, after lots and lots of IV antibiotics it was 15000 the next morning, and it was looking like surgery would not have to happen.

I hate hospitals. I really really do. I have only had to stay in a hospital three times in my entire life, once when I was a baby, once when I was five, and when I had Ryan. I didn't tell anyone I was scared, but I really really was.

Today, I feel so much better. The pain is still in my side, but the Dr. said it would be until the tenderness from everything goes away and for me not to overdo it. To rest, and not do anything that causes me stress.

LOL...no stress...

I had to see my therapist this morning, as well as the OB, and the Surgeon. I did not have to see the therapist, but she came there to check up on me and we had a little talk. She agrees staying away from all stress in my life is like asking for a miracle, it just won't happen.

Thank you to everyone for your warm thoughts and hugs.

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Saturday, April 01, 2006

Where is it

Am I the only one who thinks Arkie and CSTL need to update about their meet?

I know I can't be. I check both places every day looking for info, info, info.

Details is where its at...please update.

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